Sunday, December 31, 2023

Top Ten of 2023

I enjoy looking over the year in photos and choosing my "top ten", which honestly might be a different ten on a different day. With 10,000+ photos in a year I could take forever deliberating, instead I just scroll through quickly and use my gut. It becomes more and more true to me that the sweetest, most important moments in life are usually not fancy. Instead, they are wrapped up in everyday, ordinary life.

In chronological order..

A boy still young enough to care about putting a lego set together, the living room where I spent many hours in a recliner, flowers from my recent surgery a symbol of so, so many people praying and sending meals and messages and just generally showing us love.


A particularly beautiful sunrise. I hope to never stop being absolutely delighted by this daily event and so much of nature.

Beauty is such a gentle grace. Like God, it rarely shouts, rarely intrudes. 
Rather it woos, soothes, invites; it romances and caresses. 
We often sigh in the presence of beauty as it begins to minister to us— 
a good, deep soul-sigh. -John Eldredge


My guy is by my side whenever possible. He is immeasurably patient and long-suffering. He steadfastly bears so many burdens and just keeps loving big.

We were together. I forget the rest. ~Walt Whitman


Amanda took the next step in her faith to be baptized and to become a member of our church. From the time all our kids were born we have taught them about God and they have witnessed us living out our faith, but at some point their faith needs to become their own. Its was special to get to witness her taking these steps.


I so enjoy being a part of Teen Bible Quiz! I don't feel especially qualified and being sick has been limiting, but it is a great joy to study the Bible alongside the team, to hear them quoting scripture that I know will still be with them 30 years from now, to watch them grow in relationship with each other.  


Florida is a very beloved family tradition. We get to spend time with Nana and it is a big, welcomed exhale after crossing the tax season finish line. 


Graduation! She made it! We made it! So very proud of all that she navigated to get to this point and so very grateful to be there to witness it and celebrate her.


Us, being very us on a most ordinary day.


This little boy brings so much joy but the relationship with his parents is complicated. This picture is an answer to many prayers. Its also representative of so many little miracles we experienced this year with former foster children. I had made peace with the fact that I wouldn't see the fruit of our love, sweat and tears in this lifetime, but we did get some glimpses this year.


It was a big soccer year. I still think its so gutsy that Aiden went back to soccer after being cut from the middle school team as a 6th grader. This year took a ton of bravery again. As an incoming freshman, he played in the summer league with the high school boys and did optional group conditioning on hot summer mornings. In the fall he made the team and earned the starting goalie spot on JV. And then he weathered the disappointment of being sidelined with his shoulder. He had lots of character-building opportunities and leaned into them. It was a wonder to witness. 


At the end of a playoff game, Amanda walked off the field one last time. A flood of memories and emotions came...we had so many fun years, particularly when Shaun was coaching her on the town comp team with some of her sweet, close friends. Good grief, that girl pushed against her dad's efforts and also, for all of us, they were some special times.


Project 365, Week 52

Week 52! Just like that, another year winds down.

December 26
The girls got to spend the day doing a sleepover with Auntie Sarah. They went shopping, played games and just generally got spoiled. At home, Aiden was helping me take Christmas down and clean up the house and then he helped Shaun at the office cleaning up outside after a storm.


December 27
This was our 4th week-after-Christmas getaway with the group we affectionately refer to as the DiSalvaCours. We went to Massachusettes, just an 1.5 hours from home and stayed minutes from Butternut Ski Resort. As it turned out the weather was very mild and rainy, making ski conditions challenging, but the snowmakers produced enough white stuff to be useable. And really, we just wanted a few hours of skiing and snow tubing, the rest of the time was games and screens and puzzles and pool and hot tub and eating. 

The hotel had a nice common area and a steady supply of coffee, tea and hot chocolate and we pretty much parked it there from early in the morning to late at night. The staff was fantastic, but they must've be happy to see us go. 








December 28
Another day of games, plus an outing.



I appreciate the balance Shaun strikes with work and family. He runs a business that comes with heavy responsibility, but his family can never tell by the way he acts if the market is up or down and we always feel like his priority. He's a wonder.


We took an excursion into "town" to watch Wonka in the cutest little three-screen theater but first we walked around and explored a bit. Amanda and I were sure a Hallmark movie has been shot there.











While in town a 750-piece puzzle was purchased and we completed it in 1.5 hours!
















December 29
Amy and I hit the gym each morning before breakfast. Our workouts however were quite different in intensity...she's a beast and my workouts are Silver-Sneakers style.. ;)








This was the "snow day". The first shift of enthusiasts skied for the morning and the second shift snow-tubed in the evening. Given the warm, rainy weather, the resort did a nice job making enough snow to have usable conditions.








Before Kelly and C left to go do responsible adult things like work, we snapped a couple family/group photos. I'm so thankful for the friendships we have forged through many years of time and intention.















December 30
By 10 AM we were loaded up and on the road, grateful for our restful time away. Our family took the scenic way home and it was fun to see a part of CT we're rarely in.




December 31
Our last family photo of the year as the kids were headed out the door to two different parties at friends' houses. We so appreciate Avery's consistent willingness to give rides, even when it means inconveniencing herself or spending extra gas money. Especially on this night we were happy to not head out at midnight.

Originally I was supposed to have treatment on the 30th so we'd planned on laying low for New Year's. Even though my treatment got moved, we didn't change plans from sitting in our recliners for the evening. It was nice and I even stayed up to briefly watch the action in Times Square.

I'm thankful for this five-some we make. I really do try to be authentic in what I share here on this blog, but hopefully I'm stating what is obvious when I say....there are so many struggles, arguments, disobedience, selfishness, growing that happens under our roof that does not get shared. Not because I want to paint a perfect picture but because they are not my stories to tell. My husband is a private person and my teens are people now. Years ago their 2-year old defiant flop on the floor was cute, but that doesn't translate the same now that they're older. 

That's a lot of words to say...it often is messy and we walk through a whole lot of hard but I look for and highlight the good because that is what I've trained my heart to do. We all have that choice. 

Always be joyful, keep praying, in every situation [no matter what the circumstances] be thankful and continually give thanks to God; for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus.